Is there such a thing as love at first sight? Though I write a lot about falling in love, and have always been interested in the process of falling in love (even when I was a little girl), I don't have much personal experience about the phenomenon of love at first sight.
Sure, there were lots of guys I worshipped from afar in my preteens and teens, but those guys never noticed me, so I don't know if my distant admiration could have ever turned into love.
Of all the guys I dated before I got together with The One, none of them had ever ignited that all-consuming spark on first sight.
I met The One my freshman year of college shortly after my 18th birthday. There was zero attraction on my part, nor do I think he was attracted to me then. Since we both worked on the college newspaper, we became friends. During that first year of friendship, I came to admire him. I was impressed by his intelligence. I was awed by his academic prowess. (He's the one of us who always made A's.) I came to realize what a great guy he was by the way he talked about his family. There is that old adage that you can tell what kind of a husband a man will be by the way he treats his mother. But still, there was no romantic spark.
During my sophomore year of college (in the late sixties) I started to fall in love with The One. He was the editor of the student newspaper, so he was basically my boss. I was jostling a couple of other boyfriends at the time and because of my attraction to the fellow who would become the father of my children, I dumped them. Luckily for me, he was becoming attracted to me, too. We started staying at school late, after the paper wrapped and after the others left. Just the two of us. We liked being together. One night when he was walking me to my car he got up the courage to ask me to be his date to a big formal at the college. I nearly hyperventilated.
We've been a couple ever since.
|Me--the 20-year-old bride--and The One|
So, from personal experience, I feel the best love stories are friends-to-lovers. Surprisingly, I've only used that trope a couple of times--in Love in the Library (my nerd hero book) and in Christmas in Bath.
I still like reading about falling in love at first sight. I used it in my first book, A Duke Deceived. Have any of you ever fallen in love--the lasting kind of love--at first sight?—Cheryl’s newest release is Only You, a Georgian novella that was formerly in the Ever My Love anthology with a prologue by Kathryn Le Veque.