Friday, December 16, 2016

Who won't be coming to dinner on Christmas? @BeckyBarker

    For the first time in more than six decades, I won't be sharing Christmas with either of my parents. We lost Daddy almost fifteen years ago, and lost Mother earlier this year. During their lifetimes, I never failed to spend part of the day with them.They raised six children and taught us all to love the holidays. We were far from wealthy, but Mother and Daddy made it a time for music, lights, excitement and shared happiness.They taught us the real meaning of Christmas. I hope Buzz and I have managed to instill that same joy of the holiday in our three children and six grandchildren.
     Here's a picture of Mother and Daddy a few years before he died. Their smiles are a precious reminder of a lifetime of love and laughter they shared with 85 plus members of our immediate family. (More than 20 grands and 40 great-grands) This year, we have three new additions (including a baby girl due Christmas day) who will never meet their great-great grandparents. Those of us who are able will pass on the love and do some extra cuddling.

     I know we were really blessed to have them in our lives for so many years, and I'm forever thankful that our children grew up knowing their love, as well. There are so many people in the world who have never known the same happiness or have had the pleasure stolen by the loss of loved ones. My heart aches for them. It also aches for the families of veterans whose loved ones are in harms way.
     If you're struggling with a personal loss or have something else stealing your joy this holiday season, please feel free to share your thoughts in a comment. I find it always helps to put your feelings into words. This post is a testament to the everlasting love I always felt for and from my parents. I'm planning to keep the tradition and pass it along. How about you? 

Big hugs for the holidays!
Becky

6 comments:

  1. A very nice post. We've had loss this year, too--it's made for some really bittersweet feelings with the holiday. Merry Christmas, Becky.

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    1. Extra holiday {{{Hugs}}} Liz! I know there will be a lot of extra hugging in my family this year.

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  2. We lost the last of our parents early last year, my father in law and lost a wonderful brother in law this year. I know we'll see each other again someday.
    Our son and his family are flying in from Michigan. We'll have Christmas our daughter's house. She goes all out on decorations and planning the meals. Everyone will tease, laugh and hug but there will always be an awareness of who's not there.
    Have a very merry Christmas!

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    1. Thank you, Karen. I hope your holiday is very happy, too.

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  3. Hugs, Becky. The first anything after losing someone you love is always a minefield of emotions. My grandfather died on Christmas Eve many years ago. My dad passed on my older brother's birthday. As a minister once said, babies are born and people die on every day of the year. Births and deaths don't observe the calendar.

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    1. Thanks, Joan. Mother was the last of her generation, so her passing was the end of an era for the family. We're doing our best to stay close even though we've lost our anchor.

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